Ottawa Grief Counselling
Grief is the intense pain that comes with a loss. It might feel all-encompassing since it is a projection of what we love. Grief is not limited to the death of people, and it can be amplified by emotions of guilt and confusion. Grief is a natural process that can last anywhere from a few days to several years. Some parts of the loss may never be forgotten.
There are many ways to describe grief and manifestations of grief. Majority of the models describing grief relates it to a pendulum. Sometimes, we succumb to our loss-related sentiments of rage, despair, and anxiety. At the other end of the pendulum, we sometime turn away from our grief and become numb or alienated from our emotions and surroundings. The back-and-forth of the grieving process allows us to process our emotions and thoughts about the loss over time. We try to develop a new concept of life over time that integrates both the loss and new experiences of life.
Why Do We Grieve?
The therapeutic goal of grieving and mourning is to help you arrive to a position where you can deal with your loss in a healthy way. To do this, you must recognize that your loved one has passed away and create fresh ways to communicate.
When we suffer a loss, it may alter our expectations or views about the world that we held prior to the loss such as doubting our trust in others and questioning the safety of the world we live in . We grieve to help us adjust to our new environment in light of the loss, as well as trying to make sense of our new beliefs. Grief can help us adjust or re-establish our sense of purpose in the world over time.
Why You Might Need Grief Counselling
After a significant loss, it might seem like the easiest option is simply to move on. We sometimes say goodbye a little too quickly and we end up missing the people we lost. When we make a decision to put off grieving a loss, we essentially make a decision to put off the inevitable which can have long-term ramifications for our ability to experience happiness. Losses which aren’t resolved can stick with us unless we take the time and make the effort to recognise the sentiments and significance associated with them.
We all need support when we lose someone we love, and this is where grief counselling Ottawa can help. Grief counselling is there for when we go through a natural period of grieving, which can involve a complex set of emotions. Ottawa grief counselling can also help when life becomes unmanageable. If you feel that this has become the case for you, please contact us to book a session with a grief counsellor using the tool to the right.
When every day becomes a struggle, and when you cannot help but be utterly preoccupied with your loss much of the day, it’s time to seek help from a professional grief counsellor.
Everyone expresses grief in his or her own way.
- Some may become withdrawn, staying at home much of the day.
- Some may react with anger, lashing out at family and friends.
- Some may maintain an outwardly happy exterior, concealing their deep anguish.
Ottawa Grief Counsellors
Our Ottawa grief counsellors can help you identify your own ways of dealing with grief and loss, and can help you explore them. Contact us today by calling 613-425-4257. Some ways of coping are positive, while others are not healthy, and Capital Choice Counselling’s team can help you find ways of getting through loss without losing yourself in the process.
Our grief counsellors teach you methods of coping that help you move through your grief. Through grief counselling, you are encouraged to explore emotions surrounding your personal loss. Guided by our Ottawa counsellors, you will uncover your feelings and thoughts about your bereavement, learning to deal with them more effectively as they appear.
Grief counselling can also be helpful for people who are anticipating a loss. A terminally ill loved one can cause grief long before the worst happens, and grief counselling can help you deal with your loss pre-emptively.
Because grief often affects entire families simultaneously, our grief counsellors are able to work with your close family and friends in order to create a fully supportive environment.
How Grief Counselling Can Help
First and foremost, grief therapy and counselling creates a safe, open space in which you can share your thoughts and express your feelings. The goal is to create a judgement-free environment on which you can rely for help throughout your grieving process. Apart from helping you cope with your emotions, grief counselling also helps with:
- Expressing Your Emotions
- Addressing Feelings of Guilt
- Building a Strong Support System
- Coming to Terms With Reality
- Treating Your Trauma
- Providing Guidance Throughout the Grieving Process
Grief counselling ultimately helps individuals work through their grieving process with professional guidance. The process of coping with grief is different from one person to the next and with the proper guidance you can begin to understand what to expect, what you might feel, and you will also learn to develop a new sense of sense after a significant loss. The grieving process is a passage that we all have to go through. It’s important that you learn from it, understand it, and don’t allow it to be a destination in which you permanently reside in.
Is Grief Counselling Right For Me?
- I am struggling to come to grips with the loss of a loved one
- I feel depressed and anxious
- I feel hopeless that my life will ever get better
- I have a loved one in a life-threatening situation
If you’ve recently experienced a loss, grief counselling can help. Contact one of our Ottawa-based counsellors using the tool to the right.
Individual counselling services are often covered by your health insurance plan.
Frequently Asked Questions
Don't Grieve Alone: It's important to stay connected with your family, friends, and therapist throughout this time - they can help you cope with your emotions.
Seek Professional Help: There are professionals available who are specifically trained to help you throughout this difficult time. Leaning on their expertise and guidance will make the process much easier.
The five stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) were never intended to be a rigorous idea that people progress through chronologically, but rather a way of looking at the impact of impending death on dying patients. You may experience all of the stages in roughly the order put out by Kübler-Ross after a loss, or you may just experience one or a few.
The concept of the five stages of grief has normalised the complicated reactions we go through when we experience a loss while also opening a discourse about the complexities of grief. The essential thing to remember is that acceptance does not imply that we are no longer touched by the sadness, it rather implies that we have made room in our lives for it.
It might be difficult to know how to console a bereaved friend or relative. Don't give up if it appears that nothing you can do or say will help. You can't make the agony go away, but your presence matters more than it appears. Accept that you won't be able to solve the problem or make your buddy or relative feel better.
It can be difficult to know what to say to someone who has recently lost a loved one. If you're stuck for words or don't know what to say in the wake of someone's death, here are some suggestions to help you.
• Name names. Don't be afraid to mention the deceased.
• Don't ask, "How are you?" The answer is obvious—"not good" Instead try, "How are you feeling today?"
• Offer hope.
• Reach out. Call to express your sympathy.
• Listen well instead of advising.
• Help out. Don't just ask if you can "do anything."
• Avoid judgments.
Adults can teach children healthy strategies to cope with overwhelming feelings.
A child's grief appears in quite different ways to adults, so it's important to keep a close eye on your child and notice any unusual behaviour. Children may not have the words to convey their emotions and as such express themselves in various ways.
• Children may become clingier and demanding toward the people in their lives, as well as lose their appetite and interest in routine activities.
• Grieving children may experience sleeping difficulties, such as difficulty falling asleep or waking up during the night.
• Children who have lost a parent or sibling may become angry, inattentive, and complain of bodily pains such and headaches.
Our Ottawa child counsellors can help children grieve in a healthy way. Family counselling may be beneficial to children who have lost a caregiver or sibling.