Counsellor's Advice Blog


How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk

Written by: Dr. Martin Rovers, Capital Choice Counselling Group Falling in love is suppose to be easy, natural, and meant for life-long happiness. Too many times it ends in failure and hurt, and we can’t believe that we fell for that same type of person again. What went wrong? How can we avoid falling in love…

Help! Your Teen has Anxiety or Depression

Written By: Shawna Hyde, MA, CCC, Psychotherapist with Capital Choice Counselling Group Over the years, many parents have spoken to me about their confusion regarding their depressed or anxious teenager. “My teen is so smart, talented, and likeable but s/he just doesn’t see it!” “My daughter rebuffs compliments and totally fails to recognize her own strengths and…

Leaving Self-Sabotage Behind: Internal Family Systems

Written By: Shawna Hyde, MA, CCC, Psychotherapist with Capital Choice Counselling Group Are you struggling with a never-ending diet? Determined to stick to your budget but catch yourself swiping your card almost before you’ve realized your wallet is in your hand? What makes self-sabotage so powerful, anyway? What keeps us repeatedly reaching for the masks…

Self-Compassion: How Can I Stop Being So Mean (To Myself)!

Written by: Charlynne MacCharles, Social Worker with Capital Choice Counselling Group Have you ever noticed how harshly we talk to ourselves in our own thoughts? We would never talk to a friend in that same voice. Now is the time to learn self-compassion, by becoming a better friend to yourself. How self-compassionate are you? Take…

Leadership Coaching and Counselling

Written By: Dr. Martin Rovers, Psychologist with Capital Choice Counselling Group. Being in leadership can be very satisfying, but also comes with great challenges and a high failure rate. Some people have natural leadership skills, however, many need to learn them along the way. Even with natural leadership skills, leaders can benefit from the help of…

From Falling in Love to Couple Therapy

Written By: Martin Rovers, Ph.D., with Capital Choice  Counselling Group Falling in love is easy but relationships require work, and sometimes that means coming in for couple therapy. It can be hard to decide as a couple when to see a couple therapist. After the “falling in love” stage of a relationship, there usually is a “honeymoon…

How do I love Myself More? The Fundamentals of Self-Love

Written By: Cassandra Petrella, M.A., CCC, Psychotherapist with Capital Choice Counselling Group Most people don’t realize that we need to learn how to love ourselves. Self-love is something we must teach ourselves in order to grow. One of the main reasons why we must teach ourselves is that as little girls and boys our caregivers…

Workplace Stress & Counselling

Written by: Arthur Karp, M.Ed., Psychotherapist,  Capital Choice Counselling Group The struggle with workplace stress is a costly one. Workplace stress, difficult employees, constant deadlines, and burnout are all very real experiences that many people struggle with. They report a feeling of spiralling out of control, overwhelmed with completing what normally was a minor task, and fears of…

Becoming Less Anxious About Anxiety

Written By Dr. Martin Rovers, Psychologist with Capital Choice Counselling Group Anxiety is a normal response to events that elicit fear or worry. We all will feel anxious from time to time, whenever we are about to give speech, play in a sporting event, or have a difficult conversation. In fact, research has demonstrated that…

Naming and Claiming Family of Origin Wounds

Written by: Luc Dumouchel, a Psychotherapist with Capital Choice Counselling Group We all have childhood wounds stemming from our family of origin, or the family you grew up in. Family of origin therapy or schema therapy can help us name, claim and tame our family of origin wounds. As humans, we are social and relational…