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The Many Benefits of Couple Counselling


At Capital Choice Counselling, we consider couples counselling to be like a multivitamin. We don’t take our multivitamins when we get sick, we take them everyday to prevent illness, and to stay healthy. Same goes for marriage therapy. There’s no rule saying you have to wait for a rough patch to book an appointment. Ongoing…

When to Begin Couples Therapy


Is the first date too early for couples therapy? The above question was posed to couples and therapists alike in this recent article, and while the statement itself might be a more hypothetical question, the thought behind it is a good one. At what point is it beneficial to seek out couples’ therapy? As reflected…

Valentine’s Day & Couple Therapy: Relationship Checkup


Relationship Checkup: Should we attend an Ottawa couples therapy session? One helpful thing that holidays can do is remind us, and give us the space to, reflect. And while Valentine’s Day may be one of your least favourite holidays due to the commercialism of love, it can still provide us with a chance to take…

Benefits of Conjoint, or “Two on Two”, Therapy


Written By: Marlene Neufeld, MSW, RSW and Bob Neufeld, M.Ed. We are a husband/wife team who use a conjoint therapy approach working as co-therapists almost exclusively with couples. We meet with couples two-on-two, which means that there are four of us in the room, the client couple and the two of us. We use this…

Partners are not mean: They just have a wound or two, like you.


Written By: Dr. Martin Rovers, Psychologist with Capital Choice Counselling Group How often has a couple fight included the words: “But, you always do that! Why are you so mean?” After 25 years of doing couple counselling and marriage therapy, I know that the above line is most often not true. Even though it feels like…

How to Choose a Good Couple Therapist


Choosing a Couple Therapist for your relationship can be daunting, and as many couples do not seek out therapy until they have been in distress for an average of six years, often the stakes are high when they do. This may be your last resort, and if so, you will want to find a therapist…

How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk


Written by: Dr. Martin Rovers, Capital Choice Counselling Group Falling in love is suppose to be easy, natural, and meant for life-long happiness. Too many times it ends in failure and hurt, and we can’t believe that we fell for that same type of person again. What went wrong? How can we avoid falling in love…

From Falling in Love to Couple Therapy


Written By: Martin Rovers, Ph.D., with Capital Choice  Counselling Group Falling in love is easy but relationships require work, and sometimes that means coming in for couple therapy. It can be hard to decide as a couple when to see a couple therapist. After the “falling in love” stage of a relationship, there usually is a “honeymoon…

The Four Stages of Marriage and Marriage Counselling


Written By: Dr. Martin Rovers, Psychologist with Capital Choice Counselling Group In the book, Healing the Wounds in Couple Relationships, Rovers describes the four stages of marriage: (1) Falling in Love (2) The Honeymoon is Over, (3) The Dance of Wounds, and (4) Loving. As illustrated by the relatively high divorce rate, many couples never…