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The Four Stages of Marriage and Marriage Counselling

Written By: Dr. Martin Rovers, Psychologist with Capital Choice Counselling Group In the book, Healing the Wounds in Couple Relationships, Rovers describes the four stages of marriage: (1) Falling in Love (2) The Honeymoon is Over, (3) The Dance of Wounds, and (4) Loving. As illustrated by the relatively high divorce rate, many couples never…

Fostering Connection within Couples

Written by: Rhonda Fields, MA, CCC, Capital Choice Counselling Group Couples often lose the original emotional connection (to participate in research which is interested in helping couples find emotional connection, click here) which attracted them to one another in the first place. Falling out of the feeling of love is common for most couples.  Couple therapy can…

What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? (CBT)

Written By: Dr. Martin Rovers, Psychologist with Capital Choice Counselling Group Cognitive Therapy (CT), or Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), is an approach to to identify and solve problems. Our CBT therapists who use this model help clients overcome their life difficulties by changing their thinking and behaviour, which has an impact on emotional responses.  Cognitive…

Psycho–what? An Outline of the Terms

Written By: Dr. Martin Rovers, Psychologist for Capital Choice Counselling Group   Psychotherapy is a word with the same basic meaning as counselling (for an outline of the slight differences, click here), and is a term referring to the treatment of relationships, mental health, or life experiences that have become overwhelming or problematic. When enough…

Expressing the Depression–Depression Therapy

Written By: Dr. Martin Rovers, Psychologist with Capital Choice Counselling Group Depression hurts!  It hurts you and it hurts your loved ones around you. Counselling for depression can help. We all have our ups and downs, as this is normal in life. However when a low mood becomes more pervasive, and if these feelings of…

Couple Therapy Means Working for Love

Written By: Dr. Martin Rovers Two things can bring partners to couple therapy: enough love or enough pain. Enough love means that I can see something wrong with our relationships and, out of love for self and my partner; I suggest couple therapy to make our relationships stronger. I am willing and able to do…

Valentine’s Day: Reds or Blues?

Sometimes the day to celebrate love can bring out feelings of sadness for those who are not currently in a romantic relationship, or feelings of anger if the day does not meet expectations (whether they were conscious or not!). Unfortunately, it can achieve the very opposite of what the day is meant to do: to…